There are very few things that send me into an extreme state of anger, but I’m going to share with you the one that never fails. Whenever I’m talking about body confidence/ self-love, and somebody messages saying ‘If we all looked like you we would be confident… but we don’t, therefore it’s harder for us.’
Messages like that aggravate me so much for two reasons:
- The sheer ignorance people have to be able to judge somebody by their appearance; completely dismissing who they are, what they’ve been through, and how hard they have fought to get their place of happiness.
- Presuming that looking a certain way is the ultimate answer to body confidence. If that was true, the worlds most idolized celebrities wouldn’t photoshop their pictures.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where people would sooner judge than understand. It’s easier to stay above the surface than deeply invest into somebody else life.
If finding confidence in your body was as easy as looking a certain way, I could have saved myself from a severe eating disorder, depression, and years of my life hating what I saw in the mirror. But, I believe finding confidence in your body is only 15/20% about your appearance, the rest is in your mind.
I genuinely learned to love and embrace my body when I started to figure out who I am and what I stand for. I focused on all of the fabulous things about myself, and in time I began to love who I as. There was always the days where my ‘body hang-ups’ would get in the way, but I learned to just accept my body as it was, because it ‘s the only one I’m ever going to get.
Now, I’m not saying that’s the answer, I just know from my own journey and many of my close friends, the common denominator has been understanding who we are as people.
So if you’re on your journey to body confidence and self-love right now, please stop trying to change yourself. Stop comparing, stop dieting, stop overexercising. Maybe have a think about what’s going on up there… Learn some kind affirmations, or some techniques which teach you to be a little kinder to yourself. Find all the reason why you’re a special human, and understand your purpose a little more.
You and your body deserve to be loved.